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"eric northman has been looking very ugly lately' He looks better than you... buy a mirror.
As a black person, if someone kills you, you better had been a perfect student, or been nice to all your co-workers, and been obedient in every way possible, you had better not fought for your life, or stolen anything, or had children out of wedlock, or been on welfare, or been a gang member, or…
I need to get some things off my chest. This is a topic that’s been getting on my nerves for quite a while and I just need to get it out. The topic of the night is MEN.
Now I’m not a man-hater. I love men as much as any other person. My issue with this is the notion that people think as a female I am nothing without a man in my life. I either need a man to fill some empty void I apparently have or to buy me pretty things or to fulfill me sexually. What if I were to tell you that was a complete lie? Would that be a shocker? To some it actually might.
Some people do not know themselves without a man in it. The men in their lives define them. I’m all for people living their lives the way they want but when their views start getting pushed off on me, that’s when I have a problem. Why do I need a man to tell me who I am? I know who I am. I was born into this world 21 years ago and I’ve made my way through the world pretty well without having to rely on a man.
Some might think these are just the rantings of a bitter person, but I assure you it isn’t. Like any other person I’ve had my own share of bad relationships but I don’t let that define me either. My last boyfriend seemed to have a problem with me having a mind of my own and not accepting that cheating was the norm and something I would have to deal with like the “good little girlfriend”. Apparently, my choosing not to be with him was completely abnormal and I was not acting like the “typical girl”. His words, not mine. Even after dealing with that bullshit, I’m still not biased against men. I’m just upset at the thought that we need them.
What gets me even more mad is the fact that girls are the ones telling me this. It infuriates me that some of them don’t realize they are a completely different entity than the men in their lives. They do not know how to function without having a man to depend on. They have accepted society’s views of them as worthless and useless without that attachment. I can only hope that they can break free because it’s beyond sad watching them hold on to someone who can discard them any day without an afterthought.
Females, please learn to love yourselves first before committing yourself into a serious relationship. Free your mind!
Naomi Campbell and Beverly Peele by Gilles Bensimon for Elle magazine, November 1992